I don’t really know what inexpensive means to you, but I’d try Aliexpress (japanese lingerie), Ebay, Marks & Spencer, Debenhams, H&M, Playful Promises (not extra cheap but considering it’s designer it’s quite affordable), New Look.
+ Sales at Figleaves, Herroom, Barenecessities, Lemoncurve, Glamuse, Bodyandco.
i always resist asking, do you care about me more for what i can do for you than you care about how i honestly feel and as i am as a person?
sometimes, i find it difficult to accept that people want and care for my happiness. for my own doesn’t always match up to theirs, the mismatched feels more like misplaced in conversation. we have established that no one’s hurt is greater than any others, they’re just different*; can we say the same for happiness? can we say the same for us, as a relationship, than compared to us as individuals? to avoid answering this, we shut down, we shut down.
A couple of years ago, when I was newly pregnant and reporting in the West Bank, some of my local colleagues insisted that I skip covering a protest at an Israeli checkpoint. At first, I was resistant to letting pregnancy stand in the way of my work, but they knew from experience that there might be tear gas, and tear gas, they said, causes miscarriages.
They were right: though rigorous studies are few, there is evidence that tear gas is an abortifacient. In 2011, Chile temporarily suspended its use after a University of Chile studylinked it to miscarriage and fetal harm. Investigating the use of tear gas in Bahrain in 2012, Physicians for Human Rights found that local doctors were reporting increased numbers of miscarriages in exposed areas. And UN officials have connected tear gas to miscarriages in the Palestinian territories.
This means it’s likely that police in Ferguson, Missouri, have been spraying abortion-causing chemicals on crowds of civilians. Recently at TheNation.com, Dani McClain wrote about the killing of black youth as a reproductive justice issue, one that goes to the heart of the rights of parents to raise their children in peace, safety and dignity. She’s correct, of course, but if the anti-abortion movement were actually concerned about the well-being of the unborn, then the violence in Ferguson would be a pro-life issue as well.